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Actions and Reactions

Reactive vs Proactive


I’ve decided to be more proactive this year and less reactive.  Especially, how I treat myself and how I allow others to treat me.  I will no longer allow or aid food; or people to use and/or abuse me.  I suppose that most of us are reactive?  Just what does Reactive and Proactive mean?

Reactive people often react to their physical environment or people’s actions.  They find external sources to blame for their behavior or lack of action.

Proactive is about taking responsibility for your life if it’s in your power to do so.  Proactive people recognize that they are “response-able.”   That means making plans and following through.

Being proactive is about “handling your business”  as some would say.  To me, that means that what’s in my power to do, I do on a regular basis.  Is the change you want in your power to do?  Or, is it under someone else’s control?

I’m taking my power back from the ‘wanna be’s’  in my life!  “I wanna be slimmer.”  “I wanna be more fit.”  “I wanna be a better . . .?”  “I wanna, I wanna, I wanna.”  I can stay where I am and cry, complain and continue in my anger about circumstances.   Or I can quite crying about it and just do something!  Three months from now,  we could be in a whole new life-style if we so chose or still be crying about the same old things, three months from now.  Not me!  I’ve already started.  I am on my ‘To Do List.’  What about you?

      Black Girls RunI’m creating my future today!

Weight Training

Weight Training

A mind-style shift brings about new respect and appreciation for your body and mind and circumstances.  It starts with little changes.  This change will require goals and plans to be proactive, consistently.  Write.  Every day provides a new opportunity to recharge your new self instead of hitting the wall of procrastination.  It will take desire, knowledge and skill.


Think About It:  Intolerance of your present creates your future.

Happy New Year


“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”  –George Eliot

A new year is like opening a present with potential.  What potential for yourself are you anticipating?  A new figure?  A new career?  A new man?  New friends?  A new hair color, cut or maybe try some weave??  Whatever your new flavor or life-style change, do you know the steps?  I’ve heard it said, ‘a goal without a plan is just a wish’ or something like that.

My clients often say they don’t have time to get a manicure or pedicure.  With a plan, many things are possible.  It’s the year to quite playing with who we’re pretending to be and start shaping our future with goals and plans.  Start from the inside out.   

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.”  —Zig Ziglar